New York, NY (PressExposure) December 04, 2013 -- New research by Robert Gosling, proposal expert and author of the book "How to Propose Without Screwing it Up: 50 Common Mistakes You Won't Know You're Making and How to Avoid them", sheds interesting light on the recent leap in the number of women unhappy with their marriage proposal (25% to 33% from 2011 to 2013).
With uber romantic and over-the-top proposals being de rigueur on YouTube and many becoming overnight sensations, like the home depot, and flash mob videos that made news headlines nationwide, it would appear more men are getting the message that a proposal should be a big deal and are doing their best to make the moment memorable for their intended.
Why the growing discontent amongst women then? "According to the research, certain segments of the population have yet to realize the shift in their mate's expectations and are skewing the numbers down," said Robert.
2000 married women were sourced for the anonymous study in New York City over the course of a week. Each subject identified their mate's race, and were asked to rate their marriage proposal as either satisfactory (they were not disappointed with any aspect of their proposal) or unsatisfactory (they were disappointed in some aspect of their proposal). "The disparity was astounding."
47% of women proposed to by Black men rated their proposal as unsatisfactory; 35% of women proposed to by Hispanic men rated their proposal as unsatisfactory; 29% of women proposed to by Asian men rated their proposal as unsatisfactory; and 26% of women proposed to by White men rated their proposal as unsatisfactory
Many women proposed to by Black or Hispanic men complained of proposals that were rushed or ill-planned, diamond size, feeling like their men waited too long to pop the question or were only asking because of extenuating circumstances. Women proposed to by Asian and White men were disappointed in the place or location of the proposal and that it wasn't romantic or original enough.
While the sample size is small, there is something to take away from the results.
"What we found was all men need some help in this area, but Black men and Hispanic men particularly need to step their marriage proposal game up, at least in New York City."m