Tampa, Florida (PressExposure) March 18, 2009 -- Author Carmin Wharton announces that her book, Lessons Learned: While Looking for Love in All the Wrong Faces is a great tool in helping women recognize the signs of a potential abuser. Her goal is to help women realize that men who abuse women (physically, verbally or emotionally) do not do so without warning.
Wharton says, "A clear indicator of a potential abuser is if he exhibits what I call 'bad boy behavior.' Most abusers exhibit behavior that people don't usually link to potential domestic violence. For example a man who is consistently rude to servers in restaurants, a man who tries to tie up all of your free time or who pops up at your home unannounced is a potential abuser."
As you take a personal journey through Carmin's gritty, sometimes heart wrenching, but always entertaining relationship experiences you will also discover that there are red flags and cues that will indicate that a man is not your perfect mate for reasons other than the potential for domestic violence. You'll learn:
- How all relationships (even failed ones) teach you valuable life lessons
- How to view the lessons you've learned in relationships as "gifts"
- How your history, self-esteem and self-worth can affect choices
"There are thousands of women who are accomplished in many areas - they've built a business, successfully raised children as a single parent, are financially savvy and in great physical shape but the one thing that can trip a woman up is a bad relationship with a man. However, this is not a male-bashing book; quite the contrary. I also focus on the fact that men are human beings first and that men are more like women than different," states Wharton.
Each chapter of the book is a "lesson" and after the end of each lesson readers are provided "tools" to help them understand the lesson. The "tools" include tips of what each experience taught the author; how to view the experience as a gift; a provoking thought to make the reader get outside of herself and really see the reality of her situation; and applicable scripture because according to Wharton, "Everything we need to know about anything is in God's word."