Hermosa Beach, CA (PressExposure) December 31, 2009 -- Marriage ranks as a very low priority among New Yearâs Resolutions in the U.S. even though an alarming number of couples describe their marriage as unhappy and are worried more than ever about divorce, or being stuck in an unhappy marriage for the rest of their lives.
The top New Yearâs resolutions for 2010 are entirely focused on self-help. This would not ordinarily be a problem, but because marriages involve another person, leading marriage counselors and educators are shocked that more couples remain so singularly focused; and so dangerously unaware that by not committing to resolve their marital problems in 2010, they put their entire familyâs happiness at risk.
According to more than a dozen published surveys, 2010âs top ten popular New Year's Resolutions include:
1. Lose weight 2. Enjoy life more 3. Quit drinking 4. Stop smoking 5. Get organized 6. Learn something new 7. Get out of debt 8. Spend more time with the family 9. Help others 10. Get more fit
"This is astonishing and very sad! Divorce remains at pandemic levels, husbands and wives are fiddling in the New Year while their marriage burns," exclaimed Jeff Ullman, CEO of HappierCouples.com, the worldâs first relationship coaching and concierge service for couples. âWe have two choices: change the conversation from all about "ME", to "WE" or risk being divorced or married for a very long time.... unhappily. Why not make a New Year's resolution to make marriage a priority in 2010? This is not about spending more time with âthe familyâ. Itâs about spending time with your spouse; itâs about doing whatever it takes to make your marriage happy, passionate and thriving! Does anyone wonder why January remains the month with the highest number of divorce filings?â
A survey conducted by HappierCouples at the end of 2008 and again in 2009, suggests an even more dire prediction among married couples in 2010. Of the 300 couples surveyed, 68% admit they are stuck in an unhappy marriage, but have made no resolution to fix their marriage in 2010. âCouples are in denialâ, said Cindy Ullman, HappierCouples Co-Chief Happiness Partner. âWe will see an increase in addictive behaviors as alternatives to unfulfilled relationships. It wonât just be unhappy couples; it will be a generation of unhappy children raised in unhappy marriages."
The Ullmans recommend 25 resolutions to make 2010 a couplesâ happiest relationship ever. Here are five:
Couples Resolution #1: Make a list of everything that makes your spouse happier and do them no matter what. Couples Resolution #2: Whenever you leave for extended hours apart, give each other a special loving gesture. Couples Resolution #3: ABC (Always Be Courting). Remember how you felt when you dated. So, put your date on your calendar and stick to it. Whether itâs night or day, do something fun. Alternate whose choice it is. Couples Resolution #4: Stop doing something that makes your spouse unhappy. (You know what it is, so cut it out!) Couples Resolution #5: Create and keep practicing your own unique rituals, whether itâs pet names, expressions, insider jokes, or anything that only the two of you hold precious.
Industry experts predict that unless more New Yearâs resolutions and the commitments that follow contain the word âweâ instead of âmeâ, 2010 will likely see more divorces and millions more unhappy spouses in unhappy relationships.
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