Marine Terrace, Singapore (PressExposure) July 30, 2010 -- Whenever you browse any online dating sites, what do you usually see on most women's profiles?
Most likely you will notice these three things: no players, no games and they only want to meet "honest" guys. Yet when you take 100% of what they say and go out of your way to prove to them you are serious, you are not playing games with them and you are honest and committed to build a long-term relationship, guess what happens?
Nothing!? They are just not interested! Indeed you are a good guy, nice and sweet but you are only qualified as a great friend and not a lover. She will only talk when she has been hurt by the latest player and complaining about men and their games.
So, why is this contradiction here? First, you will never see on a woman's profile that says," I am looking for a dishonest guy, a skillful player, an expert in the games of tricking women to bed." But yet "players" still attract truck loads of women and why is this so, if women hate players?
The answer is, they do not. They enjoy the fun of hanging out with the player. But they hate the heart-breaking feeling when the player dumps them like used tissue paper for another woman. It is the feeling of being dumped that women hate, not the feeling of spending time with the player.
People love to hear funny words and see funny acts and like to be with people who are fun and humorous. But they hate the feeling of being a loser to players' games. People like to "play along" when they win. The same logic applies to women. They love the exhilaration of the "attraction game", but hate the heartbreak and rejection that goes along with it.
So, what should guys do? Sieve out only the attractive elements from the player and be the fun guy that women like to stick around with.
What women hate most about players is they lie, they create false expectations and hopes and they tell women what they love to hear for the sake of short term fun. When the player leaves, she feels embarrassed, humiliated, and "played" and no women wants to have this lousy feeling.