The Japanese Tsunami Reveals Resilience and Character

Terrell, NC (PressExposure) March 14, 2011 -- What's Your Character Quotient?

It's not what happens to us, but what we do with what happens that reveals true character. As the creator of a character building program, I Believe I Can Fly!, I could not resist commenting on the response of the Japanese people to one of the most horrific disasters of our time. The Tsunami was only the first hit, followed by five nuclear emergencies - the third worst nuclear disaster ever. Having lived in Japan for a short time about 45 years ago, the graciousness of the people have a special place in my heart and I have always admired their personal pride, honor and graciousness.

Michael Brown, the director of FEMA during the Katrina disaster, predicted that after the shock, we will see the Japanese people playing the same "blame game" that we frequently observe here in the United States. I disagree with Mr. Brown. He said it was human nature and as a psychotherapist, I do know how people deal with grief, loss and painful events. With entire cities missing, the losses of the Japanese people .are incomprehensible. Although we all share natural instinctual behaviors, social and cultural conditioning also shapes our behaviors or why would we teach parenting skills and character education?

News reporters have commented on how calm and polite people were as they rushed to stores for supplies, but did not push or shove. They respected the needs and rights of others while concerned about their own survival. Obviously their survival instincts were tempered with what I refer to as cultural override. Their honor trumps their anger and acting out.

I remember being awed by the attitude of gratitude demonstrated by the children of Sri Lanka after that devastating Tsunami had taken the lives of their parents. Although they had to feel despair, they were not looting, violent or starting riots. Was their corruption and people who capitalized on the tragedy by abducting girls for sex slaves? Yes, but those heartless sharks were often coming in from the outside to victimize victims. These people were not the orphans and children of the land that I saw politely standing in line and waiting their turn to receive a piece of bread. Even after loosing their homes and their families, they did remember to say, " Thank you."

Personally, politically, and in the business world, we must move from a place of entitlement to empowerment. No one experiences personal power when they continuously give it away. When you blame others for your state of powerlessness and helplessness, you are by your own choice increasing your state of powerlessness. How can you ever score any points when you constantly give the ball away? That is what you are doing when you do not take ownership. Life never promised us a rose garden, but learning to deal with the thorns does give us the privilege of smelling a few flowers if we chose to notice them.

No one owes you anything, but you do owe it to yourself to take charge of what you can control which are the thoughts you choose and the beliefs that shape how you experience life. How the Japanese people are not REacting but PROactively moving forward with pride, dignity and honor is a teachable moment. Don't just applaud their resilience and strength of character, learn from it and live it.

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Edie Raether, MS, CSP is known as the Bully Buster. She is a Change Strategist and international speaker, author and the creator of an empowering character building program, I Believe I Can Fly! Visit Edie at,, and (704)658-8997.

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A Change Strategist and international keynote speaker and bestselling author, Edie Raether has integrated over 40 years of experience in human potential development, motivation, and behavioral psychology into a revolutionary character building program, Wings for Wishes. As president of Performance PLUS, a speaking, training, and coaching firm, Edie has empowered over 3,500 professional associations, educational organizations, and Fortune 500 companies on five continents.

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